I got a forward today from a girl that I’ve been chatting with for years. I often read them, but never forward them. There was a quote in this one that caught my eye.
“Remember the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.”
I’ll have to ponder [...]
Archive for October, 2008
Relationships
Posted in D/s, tagged needy, relationships, submission on October 29, 2008 | 1 Comment »
grandma, part II
Posted in Uncategorized, tagged what is love on October 23, 2008 | 1 Comment »
One other thing I remember from my conversation with Grandma, we discussed what she thought love meant. She said she thought it meant caring about your partner more than you care about yourself. putting their needs first. She said that the two of you come together to take care of each other, so that together [...]
Can’t seem to win
Posted in Uncategorized on October 23, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Well, it’s 2am and I was up thinking, so I figured I’d write about it. On Sunday I asked CC to deposit a check to make sure we didn’t overdraft our account. Come tuesday, we had an NSF. I asked her about it, and she forgot to deposit the check. I suggested that she go [...]
Conversations with Grandma
Posted in Uncategorized on October 21, 2008 | 1 Comment »
Had a long conversation with grandma tonight. It started by her asking if there was a third person involved in CC and I splitting. My response was “well, funny you should ask that” then told her I’d been living with two women for the last two years. She said that she guessed that CC was [...]
Acceptance
Posted in Uncategorized on October 17, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
At some point I’m going to have to accept that my live is forever changed. I always thought that our relationship was solid enough to last the test of time. I was wrong. I need to accept that and move on. I can still be available for CC if she needs me, but I can’t [...]
Space and selfishness
Posted in Poly, tagged Poly, selfish, space on October 13, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
Is CC actually selfish? Maybe that isn’t the best word. I’m not sure what is though. She devotes an amazing about of time to the family, to taking care of all of us and to managing and organizing. In the past she has devoted a lot to me. So being [...]
Voting
Posted in Uncategorized on October 11, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
It’s almost that time of year again, when we all go to the polls and do our civid duty. Choosing the candidate that will represent us. Hell of a choice though. It’s about like when I tell Bridget I’m going to spank you, would you like to choose leather or wood. While strictly speaking she [...]
Not Happy 2
Posted in Uncategorized on October 11, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
CC if you’re still reading, you should probably skip this one.
So, CC and I discussed my paintbrush post in more detail the other night, and I laid out what I’m offering pretty cleanly, I’ll be there for her, in whatever fashion she needs a man. Simply put, if that means not at all, then that’s [...]
Labels, love, and protocol
Posted in D/s, Poly, ramblings, tagged D/s, labels, Poly on October 8, 2008 | Leave a Comment »
I’ve always said that I hate labels, but that isn’t an entirely accurate statement. I hate arguments about labels. Get a group of poly or D/s people together, and ask what is the difference between poly and swinging, or sub and slave, and you’ll get a lively discussion, and in the end, even if you’ve [...]
Conversations with a paintbrush 2
Posted in Poly, tagged breakup, Poly on October 8, 2008 | 1 Comment »
More painting and thinking today.
CC is reading Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands right now, and her biggest complaint is that it puts so much of the onus on wives to control the happiness in a relationship. That was my largest complaint as well, because I think men can take a lot more responsibility than [...]
