I’ve seen a lot of comments on my blog about how I’m always down, or always thinking about CC. And Bridget has received a lot of comments on her blog about how much I don’t appreciate her, or am taking advantage of her, based in part on some of the complaints that she has posted about me.
I think it is important to realize that when you read someone’s blog, you are peering through a window in to their life. You are not seeing their entire life. It’s like peering through someone’s bedroom window and concluding all they do is have sex and sleep. Or looking in to the kitchen and concluding all they do is eat. These blogs only show a portion of our life, so before jumping to conclusions, please keep that in mind.
I understand the point you’re making and try and bear it in mind where ever I read. There’s a tendency, especially via medium like a blog, to believe we know a person just from having read their daily writings. But even if they’re writing their “true” self, it’s at best only true for that moment.
P and I have experienced the mirror of what you and Bridget have — neither one of us writes very much about problems our relationship has had over the course of it’s 12 years. And yet there have been problems it’s just we’re both quite introverted and when unhappy retreat into our own heads. But because the problems haven’t been written down though, they don’t exist online and we’re seen sometimes as having a frighteningly idealized existance and relationship. That’s a lot of pressure.
Windows, Prisms and Lenses…
Thinking about blogging and being on-line, much as I haven’t been lately, I wrote in response to something stumblingtaoest wrote about being judged on what he and his partner have been writing recently in their blogs as part of their……